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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm on the opposite side of this in that I have been accused of parental alienation since DD was an infant.[b] I breastfed because I felt that was best for her. When she refused a bottle,[/b] her dad said it was parental alienation. I coslept from infancy through her toddler years and he said it was parental alienation. I enrolled her in Sunday school as a preschooler and he (a secular Jew) said it was parental alienation. We went to court a lot. To be honest, I am not certain parental alienation even exists because the therapist we saw by Cory order argued it didn't. He was concerned about emotional abuse from the false accusations and repeated court actions. [/quote]

I would say a relationship with her father is "best", certainly more important than exclusively breastfeeding.  Science would back this up. [/quote]

I would have loved to have given expressed breast milk in a bottle for multiple reasons. However, she would not accept a bottle of any thing (breast milk, formula, water, juice, etc.) from any one including the pediatrician and the high priced night nanny that her father hired. He actually did have visitation with her despite her refusal to eat, he just felt my breasts had spoiled the experience for him.

Like wise, he had the Friday night through Sunday am visitation that he requested so Sunday School didn't interfere, he just didn't want her to learn Christianity.

As for co sleeping, he tried to argue that it made him look like a bad guy to put her in a crib.

To the PP who believes the problem was our family therapist, my ex had a chance to bring into court a therapist who would argue that parental alienation exists. Over the course of six years, he never did. Even when he knew I was bringing an expert who said it didn't exist.

Despite his belief that simple parenting actions on my part would devastate his relationship with DD that hasn't happened. She has expressed to the therapist that he seems insecure and asks too many questions about me, but she clearly loves him.

I feel for anyone going through this. It's sad.[/quote]

I would go back to court to stop the so called "family therapy".  He's not part of your family, and this therapy is forcing you to be with your abuser. What he is doing is called, Abusive Stalking Using The Court System, or Abuse Of Process.  He's abusing the courts to pay you back, which isn't too uncommon. Next time he threatens to take you to court, let him know you and your lawyer will file papers to have him punished and modifying the agreement. Talk to your lawyer about this and be ready with a game plan.  Otherwise, I would get him out of your life except for child exchanges. Don't engage, don't let him know your business or what you and daughter do when it's your time with her. 
As much as possible you need to move forward, not empowering him further.

Apparently he has bad feelings about the break up. [/quote]

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