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[quote=Anonymous]Hi, I need some perspective on a birthday party issue we're having with DD. She is almost 8 and has been diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, OCD, and ODD. She struggles with friendships and social skills (i.e. being too blunt). She is medicated and in weekly therapy. She has not had a birthday party with school friends since preschool and we decided to do a friends party this year. She has a cousin whom she is extremely close to and they have a mutual friend. This mutual friend is better friends with DD's cousin than DD and DD has a very, very hard time with this and is jealous of this friend. We invited the friend to the party because she is a neighbor, they're in the same grade, and because it's the right thing to do (DD is friends with her and they play regularly). Ever since the invitation went out, DD has been fixated on this friend clinging to her cousin and her not getting to spend time with her cousin at the party. Despite reassurances from DH and I and talking to her therapist about this, she was coming home from school angry and in tears every day because of the worry over this. She did tell the friend not to cling to her cousin and we had a talk about how that wasn't something you did because it hurts feelings. DH and I finally got fed up with the daily tantrums/meltdowns (they are extreme) over this and said that if she said any more about this friend, her party was cancelled. I did tell her that our overall goal was for her to be healthy and happy and it seemed like the party was causing a lot of stress for her. Well, it took about 3 days and she said something to her cousin about how she was worried about the friend clinging. I am upset with myself because I feel like we set DD up for failure by having a party like this when she doesn't handle things well. She is also a pusher and we have to be very firm with her (see ODD dx) so I feel like we can't go back on our word. WWYD? [/quote]

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