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OP - Depending on the ages of the grandparents, it is important to realize that even on a healthy older person caring for an infant and especially a toddler can have a physical toll.  I have seen two cases of friends who have had to have knee operations in their 60s exacerbated by full-time care of toddlers.  Also remember that if you are moving close to either set of in-laws to help you out that you and DH will be front line helpers as grandparents have health issues themselves so be open for that reciprocal expectation, too.  To be fair to either set of grandparents, you and DH need to talk with them about what "your expectations" for any child care might be, especially if you have not been working full-time , and what their expectations might be.  I know another couple who are so supportive of their grown children that they have provided childcare all the way through to the extent that even in retirement, they only take a two week vacation to go out of state for family reunions because that is all the vacation their grown child and SIL get AND these are older children now.  I think they are more than being taken advantage of.  There is no reason why the grown children could not find summer camps or other child care arrangements in the summer to encourage their parents to travel a bit.[/quote]

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