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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay, please hear me out. My DD's third grade teacher has basically diagnosed her with ADHD inattentive. She seems to misunderstand my DD in several ways. [b]First of all, my DD is having some attention problems in her class. Her class is very hectic, but DD does have some inattentive behaviors. She will not come to her stations on time (will need several reminders that it's time to transition), and won't always be prepared with her folder.[/b][i][u] She has had some issues completing some tasks/assignments. At the same time she is reading well above grade level and has been doing work with enrichment for years. She says her teacher will ask her how her day was, or say "you had a hard day, didn't you," and then when my DD says she is fine, or didn't have a hard day the teacher will say, "yes you did!" We have implemented a few strategies to help her with her attention issues but when I ask how things are going the teacher is like, "she's very stressed." My DD however does not report feeling stressed and in fact loves going to school and comes home happy most of the time. She is a kid who is usually very vocal when she is unhappy.

I don't know what to think! I'm taking DD to the pedi to start screening for ADHD but I feel a little like this teacher is gaslighting her...like my DD isn't as compliant and easy to teach and quick with finishing her work as some of the kids in the class are, and this combined with the teacher herself being very disorganized has resulted in my DD being labelled as constantly stressed and frustrated and disorganized. Help! What should I do?[/quote]

These are real problems in third grade.  Most third graders don't need any prompting to come to their stations, and only occasional reminders for stuff they need.
  Just because she is happy and loves going to school, doesn't mean she didn't have a hard day as far as actually accomplishing what she was supposed to do at school.
Perhaps the teacher is projecting, but instead try approaching the teacher and talk about what strategies you can all implement to work on the real problems your DD seems to be having.[/quote]

Agree.  Instead of getting all defensive by saying the teacher is "gaslighting" your DD, OP's time will be better spent approaching the teacher and brainstorm about helping your DD.[/quote]

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