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[quote=Anonymous]I agree this isn't terribly uncommon, although your situation sounds a bit extreme to me if he's not willing to at least hear you out and try to see your point of view.

The bottom line is you have to do it and he's really a spectator in most ways.  He will never be able to fully understand or feel the physical and emotional burden you are feeling.  He can be supportive, but I very much remember feeling very alone.  My husband tried to be helpful and supportive, but a lot of times, he just didn't know what to do or say.  It's hard.

As far as physically going with you to appointments or giving you shots, I don't think that's really necessary.  My DH also works a lot and it just didn't make sense for him to be coming with me.  The shots aren't a big deal.  You'll do a few and you'll see.

I guess my advice is save your neediness (which is normal) for the big stuff.  Don't expect him to be as invested or involved in the minutia day-to-day.  Find other support systems.  A close friend or a family member?  I think you'd be best served by having a broader support network and he's one piece of it.  [/quote]

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