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[quote=Anonymous]Partly this is just a vent because I'm not sure that there is anything to do in this situation but I'm certainly open to suggestions. I apologize in advance that this is long winded. One of my oldest friends is in town this weekend for an event. She asked me a few weeks ago if I had plans this weekend or if I would be free if she came into town which was basically her way of asking if she could stay with us. We didn't have plans so I said sure she (and her significant other) were welcome to come for the weekend and stay with us. We live close to the metro so they could come and go that way and she said she didn't mind taking the metro even late at night since her SO was coming. Well then she sent me her flight info and it turns out they weren't coming just for the weekend but coming for 5 days AND they weren't getting in until really late at night (way past our bedtime). Well, in the last 3 weeks her plans have changed at least 7 or 8 times. First they cancelled so I made plans for the weekend. Then she was going to come by herself without SO but had someone to stay with all but 1 night. Then she didn't have anyone to stay with some of the nights so we said she could stay here. The nights that she needed to stay with us keep changing and she keeps expecting me to drive her to and from the metro as she comes and goes.

I'm really happy to see her, we've been friends for 20 years but don't see each other often (once every few years) because we live in different states, but this has been a difficult and frustrating weekend. On top of everything else I have 2 pretty sick kids and can't just run out to pick her up every time she wants me to. She was ready to come back here earlier but DH had to go out and get a haircut so I said he could pick her up at the metro after he was done since I couldn't live 2 sleeping children here by themselves. She didn't like that idea and was annoyed because I didn't know exactly what time he would be done and she didn't know exactly how long it would take to come here on the metro and she didn't "want to wait somewhere unfamiliar" for us to pick her up. I should add it's the middle of the day and we live in Bethesda so it's not like an unsafe area. She's been walking all over the city by herself but she can't wait for a short time at the metro for one of us?

Anyway, I just kind of needed to vent. If I had invited her to come to visit for a weekend I would fully expect to plan fun activities and be the chauffeur for the weekend but since she asked if she could stay with us while she attended an event it bothers me that she still expects me to drop everything. [/quote]

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