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[quote=Anonymous]My MIL is like this but not entirely on the same level. Drove me nuts as a first time mom a few years ago. I hadn't noticed it until then! We were moving and had everything under control and she just kept telling us advice (she has not moved in 40 years....I have moved 7 times or whatever throughout young adulthood). Finally we all just talked about it. She's sooo sensitive but I made my husband be the main speaker....to tell her that she was being too involved, that my own parents are FAR from involved, and that's what I'm used to; that her other kids have let her do this....but that our relationship with her was going to be different than theirs with her.

It did not go over well at first. Like I said she's extremely sensitive, thinks everything is a confrontation even when it's just stuff that has to be said.

But over a week or two she came back and said she was glad we said something. She knew she has been really involved in the other siblings lives, for their own reasons, but she knew she didn't need to do that with us.

Over the last 4 years, it's reverted back to the original behavior here and there, but the slightest mention of us needing space works wonders. So glad we had the tough conversation once, and we can kind of refer back to that when needed. [/quote]

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