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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How did having kids effect your marriage, and did you have more trouble after having your first kid, or was it worse with the second?

DH and I have a 4 year old DD and a 6 month old DS and it is really kicking our asses. The first year with DD was miserable because she was a very challenging baby. DH and I really had a hard time adjusting and took our sleep deprivation, parenting disagreements and everything else out on one another. But, we came out of it fine and decided to go for #2 when DD was 3.

Now it feels like we have hit an all time low even though DS is easier than DD was... but babies still need around the clock care and DD is still high maintenance. DH promised to step up so we divide and conquer... but he can't seem to deal with the zero personal time, our house is a disaster, etc. And he gets to go to work everyday so it's not like he is home with the kids. We had a long talk about what having 2 kids would mean before we moved forward, and I was on the fence because I was really worried that DH wouldn't be happy with more chaos and us both having to be "on" 24/7. And now it seems like that's exactly what is happening.

Will it get better? Is this just par for the course during the first year, or are we doomed?[/quote]

20:59 is exactly right.

And I hate to say this OP, but it's not just the first year that will be tough. You start to get your life back when your youngest turns 4. That is always a rule of thumb. So remember that when you start thinking about having #3.[/quote]

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