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[quote=Anonymous]My MIL and FIL are retire.  They visit us once or twice a year for a long weekend.  We visit them for at least a week if not 2.  They are 6-8 hours away depending on how we hit traffic.  If there are any other grandchildren around, their default it to be with the other grandchildren.  A big part of this is location,  my FIL takes care of my SIL's children after school and has provided full time child care for the children over the years.

My SIL (and her family) just reached out this weekend to discuss coming and visit Easter weekend; when my MIL and FIL are visiting.  I told my DH I would prefer for her not to b/c this is the 1 time all year that the children get to visit with their grandparents without the other grandchildren.  My DH is now upset that I said no to his sisters visit. She rarely visits, never based on our invites for major family events, always when she realizes that she has nothing planned for an upcoming break.  The last time she visited was over 2 years ago.

After reflecting on it, I realize that our children will never have more than a scratch the surface relationship w these grandparents.  They always come exhausted - they typically get caught doing something for my SIL the night before they come and then are tired their entire visit.  We have offered to fly them down, asked them to stay longed (My FIL is uncomfortable doing this b/c then my SIL will need to get someone to watch the kids so we need to clear their visits with my SIL 1st).

For others with similar relationships - do I just say yes to her visit b/c it will not make a difference anyway?

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