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[quote=Anonymous]I think it varies, and I think earlier pubertal onset is complicating things, especially for girls. My DD is a seventh grader. Her friend, who started having periods shortly after turning nine, had a drama-laden fifth and sixth grade relationship with a boy which spanned two years. It majorly disrupted the social scene at school.

It started with kissing at a social, and an 'agreement' to date. Lots of breakups and make ups ensued, complete with publicly hugging and nearly making out on the bus during field trips. (Even in front of the girl's chaperoning mom, who thought it was quaint. I'm no prude, and I grew up during the seventies, but  that scene screamed 'horny teenagers' to me, something that wasn't on display at my school until at least the eighth grade.) The wildest thing I remember at fifth grade was dancing with, and holding the hand of my 'boyfriend'.

That relationship fizzled out, replaced by another at the end of sixth, into seventh, which also fizzled out. Replaced by...lots of possessive, but non-sexual touching and partnering with girls by the girl in question (almost like a social branding), and now lots of time spent on social media.

I think girls, in particular, now feel an intense pressure to be somehow 'paired' at a very early age. It seems different than when I was growing up. Girls certainly had best friends, but there is an intensity in same-sex friendships within my DD's girl peer groups that is kind of scary. I wonder if the oversexualization of kids through media is driving our kids to seek shelter within friendships that are more possessive in nature. [/quote]

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