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[quote=Anonymous]My child has been begging to quit for several months.  She claims she hates it.  DH and I are on the fence.

Reasons to make her stick with it:
1. The lesson of not quitting just because something gets hard
2. The lesson of "you signed up for the year, you have to finish it"
3. Music performance opportunity
4. Music lesson opportunity - she doesn't otherwise take piano or anything
5. My parents forced me to take piano in elementary school and I appreciated it later

Reasons to let her quit:
1. She claims she didn't know there would be a concert, and she's petrified. This is consistent with her being petrified of the recorder concert last year - DH and I ultimately agreed not to attend.
2. She thought there would be more instruction (as did we). It appears to be more "band practice" even though this is everyone's first year.
3. Though she plays the trombone, she's in with the other brass students, and has received very little instruction on her instrument. Most attention is paid to the trumpet students as there are more of them.
4. She does take ballet, so she is exposed to both classical music and performing for an audience.

Dh and I can't quite wrap our heads around letting her quit.  We feel like it's hard for her because she doesn't practice as much as she's supposed to (even when she does practice, much of the 15 minutes is spent crying or complaining that it's too hard).

That said, if I signed up for a painting class, and after a few classes really hated it (or the instructor, or the class structure or whatever), I wouldn't force myself to continue just because "I made a commitment." This isn't a soccer team, and the other students won't have to "forfeit" the concert if she isn't there.

Any experiences with this?[/quote]

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