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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The problem is that too many decisions were made for her. She feels no ownership or responsibility or passion toward the plans and promises made for her.

Now, marrying a rich guy and giving up all sense of self is not good. But it's not surprising that she has no ambition or direction since she has not been taught to think for herself and know her own mind.[/quote]

Let me just add that your feelings of betrayal toward your sister are much more about feelings of resentment because you have taken on a burden that you did not want because you were told it was the right and honorable thing. And you resent her decision to make decisions for herself. I know what this is like. I know what it is to feel this way, especially as an oldest sibling.

But you need to understand that your anger and frustration and hurt toward your sister is really more about feelings of resentment because of the heavy burden your parents placed on you. While I don't think you should abandon your ambition like she has, I do think you can learn to think for yourself and to do what YOU think is right, not what others think is right. Being a people pleaser will not lead to your own happiness, OP. I speak from experience.[/quote]

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