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[quote=Anonymous]Ha! I could have written a book on this, except it would have been about my mother in law.  At first I had no idea how to handle her- the inexplicable and unexpected emotional breakdowns, the constant barrage of high drama emails, where she would literally respond line by line, picking apart and reading into every word I wrote. Communicating with her was like navigating a minefield that I could only dare to do if I was at the top of my mental and emotional game. It was crazy hard at first, but perhaps because I was an outsider with no history with her, I was able to come up with effective strategies for dealing with her.

The first thing, share the absolute minimum information. Keep it basic and matter of fact. Secondly, when she starts becoming inappropriate with you or crossing your boundaries, stop her immediately, by simply asking her to stop the inappropriate behavior. No explanation, no apology, no nothing, just a simple request to stop. And then drop it. Repeat as often as necessary. Thirdly, decide for yourself that you won't waste any of your time trying to change her, fix her, or enlighten her. It won't work, and you are also feeding her addiction for attention, to have the focus be on her. Finally, accept her with her faults, she is broken, but she is family and raised you in the best way she knew how at the time.

Good luck.[/quote]

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