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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I've told him but nothing changes[/quote]

This is a problem, Maybe you need to spell it out more clearly. He also probably doesn't know that you are repulsed by his behavior. Find a time to talk, then tell him:My desire for sexual intimacy has plummeted. There is a lot we can do to change this situation. First, I feel like I am at everyone's beck and call all day--work and then our child, so when you approach me the way you do, it feels like another demand.  This is what I would like (and then spell it out).

Having been in similar situation, this is what I told my husband: its hard for me to switch gears from work/mom demands to couple time, instead it just feels like another demand. So, at the end of the day, it would be great if you could sometimes just take over the rest of the tasks (dishes) while I take a bath and have a glass of wine (or whatever). Then we spend some time talking and reconnecting as a couple.

When we have done this it often, but not always leads to sex. Its not exactly  "i did the dishes, now I get sex" mentality, its "this is what we need to do as a couple to reconnect and generate intimacy, and get on the same page" which is healthy for our sex life but also emotional life.

also, I got from your post that you do (or feel like you do) nearly 100% of the child and household care. That would be a deal killer and desire killer for me. [/quote]

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