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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a divorced female. 3 months after my ex husband moved out I was asked to go out on a date by someone.  We did. We have hit it off very well. My divorce has been final for 13 months. Well, he asked, I said yes 1 month ago. My family recently told me that they have believed that he is the reason for my divorce and therefore do not agree with the engagement. His family is great, they love me and support us.  I have told my family that he was absolutely not the reason. My ex had serious anxiety/depression/social anxiety and is an introvert, we grew apart.  My family knew that things were not good between my ex husband and I for a while.  I'm not sure what I do at this point.  Do I tell my now finance' about the way my family feels? Do I just move forward with wedding plans (it will be a small type wedding)

It hurts me that my family doesn't believe me. I feel happy to have found someone again, but confused and sad about how he is received in my family.[/quote]

I think they may be on to something.  He asked you out 3 months after your DH moved out.  That sounds like he waited the "minimum appropriate amount of time so as not to look bad".  Then he asks you to marry him exactly 12 months after your divorce is final?  Again, it sounds like he is doing things to satisfy some sort of minimum rules so as not to look bad.    Assuming that your divorce took [i]at least[/i] a year to finalize after your DH moved out- which is highly unlikely as it takes a year of official separation and time to work things out- especially with minor children (who were 6/7 and 9/10 when he moved out?).  WHo istiaged the separation? Did you ask your DH to move out?  What was the precipitating event?

How long have you known your fiancé? [/quote]

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