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[quote=Anonymous]I think physical attraction is a very malleable thing. Or at least it is for me. I can be attracted to my DH one month and then the next, not so much, depending on what is going on between us at the time. It is insanity that your wife would marry you if she was not physically attracted. It's double insanity that, if she did, she would tell you so.

Still, at this point in life, after children and years of marriage, MOST people have to work at their sex lives to some extent. You don't have to be panting with desire for someone to still be having loving, tender sex with your lifelong partner. Everyone's passion ebbs and we have to work to keep the connection going.

If you are not happy with your sex life and her "low drive" you need to talk with her about that and perhaps get the two of you into couples counseling to work on it. Does she have orgasms with you when you guys have sex? If the answer is no then it is no wonder she would have "low drive" to have sex with you. You guys really have to talk about this and understand each other and work on it. Sexual intimacy is really connected to emotional intimacy for most women, and I imagine men too, and this is important. A sexless marriage can be improved--I did it in my marriage--but it's not going to happen on its own. It takes a real effort and a willingness to change yourself. [/quote]

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