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[quote=Anonymous][quote]My 5 year old is both shy and extremely sensitive to perceived or actual slights by other children. If another kid pushes him or says something unkind, unlike most kids, my DS has a hard time asserting himself as well as letting the incident go....and it will ruin his whole day. The difficulties are more likely to arise in unstructured settings....like recess. Summer camp was really hard for him as every day a kid said or did something... I talked with the camp multiple times and at the end, they were basically supervising him the whole time to make sure nothing happened.

We work a lot with him on how to assert himself when other kids are unkind. We talk with him when he is upset and work through any distortions in his thinking about whether an action by another child is really purposefully mean or is there another explanation for the behavior. We have him enrolled in martial arts to boost his confidence so he can feel good that he can defend himself. Right now I have him at a small private school and so the teacher can assist when there are any difficulties and thus, he has had a great year. I am looking to reduce my work schedule so I don't have to put him in camp all summer and just a few weeks instead. Unfortunately, due to finances, we will have to move him to public school next year, and I feel there will be a lot more difficulties with peers, because of the number of kids to staff ratio. Please let me know if you have a similar situation and any advice[/quote]

He's going to be fine, because in public school he is going to get used to occasional disagreements and problems with other kids, and learn to deal with it. My son was the same way and he was unhappy for about half of K.  Then he adapted, and was fine for the second half of K, first and so far second grades.[/quote]

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