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This is why I'm happy my mother lives on the other side of the Atlantic.

She's also the type to go to the doc at the drop of a hat. She can't control what comes out of her mouth, and she's a superstar worrier - very bad combination. Major NAGGING, on every subject under the sun. UGH.

Why don't you suggest she go home early? Thank her for watching your kid, send her a gift when she arrives home.

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Yes, nagging and worrying.  Ugh.  Why can't they understand that it's not a good thing to head to the doctor over every sniffle?  I'd have gone - really - but my gut said I didn't need to.  And now that I'm on the upswing, I know I made the right call, but because I'm not totally better, nope.

I did try to send her home, she won't go.

And it's a long story of why she's here to begin with.  I am being ungrateful probably, but I cannot take it anymore.[/quote]

PP you're responding to - I understand what you're going through. Seems like we have the same kind of mother!
If her stay cannot be shortened (and I hope it won't be lengthened!), the best you can do is not engage, and tuner her out as much as possible. 
"Why don't you do X, Y, Z? I really need you to do X, Y, Z.
- Hm hm. Doing laundry now.
- Why haven't you done it yet? It's been hours and you haven't done X, Y, Z.
- Hm hm. Let's go for a walk with DS.
- Well? It's the end of the day, and you haven't done it! *Worry, worry, nag, nag. Blame everyone in sight.*
- Right, hm hm. Maybe tomorrow.
- Aren't listening to me? You have no respect for your old mother. I've suffered so much for you! Etc...
- Love you, Mom. Good night."

Rinse, wash, repeat. 
It's hard to be the bigger person when you're talking to your own mother and she's the childish one. Feels so weird.
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