Reply to Honest Question for Low Drive Spouses

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Honest Question for Low Drive Spouses"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was she always like this or is it new? Low drive can be looked at same way as depression, there's often a chemical cause in addition to the circumstances (kids tired etc). Do you guys have any intimacy? I would talk about that first since you really do need that in a marriage. Sounds like you have not just low drive issues but intimacy and being close issues (given you saying no making out etc). 
At my peak of low drive due to pregnancy I wanted nothing to do with intercourse but I still wanted to touch and kiss and cuddle with my husband to be close to him. That got us through that patch. 
Do you kiss and hug her with a clear understanding that nothing further is required? [/quote]

OP-Thanks.  This is not entirely new, she was never as sexual as I was, and I understood that and was ok with that and the level we had.  It has completely stopped, we have had sex one time in 2 years (one BJ and two Hj's in this time period as well).  We did have a child 9 months ago, and I understand the hormones and challenges of that, but again, I am not looking for full sex, just some type of contact that shows she cares that this is painful to me.  I do try to kiss and cuddle with her without the goal of sex, but I always end up breaking eventually.  What I mean is that I go for like 3 or 4 weeks of this kind of interaction but she doesn't make any changes in her behavior, so I end up getting frustrated.  I get frustrated that I work to meet her where she is but won't do anything to meet me where I am.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics