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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are you? How long ago did this happen? In your case, it sounds temporary. Just keep trying and keep it light and superficial and she'll be back.

In my case, we are all 45 yrs, 50+ yrs and 60+ yrs old and i am afraid there's no going back. I believe the reasons i was cut out are relatively trivial but because of the age of my sibs, they are not very flexible and our mother is very old/will be gone soon and i think that's it for us! I try to make contact with every visit (they live near mother, i live distant) but it's no go. Good luck OP.[/quote]

We're in our twenties. I am late she is middle. A part of me is relieved because I honestly feel a little happy. Trying to be around her the last few months was emotionally painful and hurtful because she did not reciprocate my gestures of friendship or intimacy. She had started blocking me out over the past few years. At first, we'd go out together with mutual friends. Slowly, I got sick of the going out because I'm 4 years older and had work in the AM. We had this one incident where it was her friend's 21st birthday and it was a Sunday. The two of them insisted on going out to celebrate. Since I knew the girl pretty well, I decided to go along too but had the first day of my job the next day. [b]I told them I can stay until midnight but we need to come back soon after. I go along until midnight and then start telling them to leave. [/b]They do not want to and start getting drunk and silly. I finally tell them to seriously cut it out and how I have the first day of my new job in the morning and I need to get home. They are so mad at me and don't speak to me on the drive home. The next day my sister berates me for being a "bad friend" and how I should have "sucked it up" since it was her birthday. I countered that with the fact that if they were MY good friends they wouldn't have made me stay out so late on the night before my first job.

After this night she stopped going out with me. Slowly I was excluded from her social circle and built my own. I always invited her to my events and around my friends/BFs and she kept hers separate. When I was interested in a guy or dating, she got the play by play and she had a BF for 5 months and I had no idea until her friend yelled at me saying he needs to be invited to her graduation party since he's her boyfriend.

Too much drama. She's not a very nice girl.[/quote]

Why couldn't they stay out?  It was inappropriate to demand that they go home because you had something to do.  They didn't make you go out, you could have taken a taxi.  It sounds like a bad dynamic had been building up between to.  [/quote]

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