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[quote=Anonymous]DH, hang in there.  It sounds to me like you are doing all the right things.  We have four kids.  I was not too interested in sex for several months after each was born, both because I was exhausted from nursing and sleep was too precious, and because I was carrying extra weight that I did not feel good about.  My DH - who is an absolutely great guy - understood, and cut me a lot of slack for those months (like, no sex at all).  In each case, after the baby was sleeping more and I dropped most of the weight, things returned to normal.  Fast forward 10 years, and a slower metabolism, and I gained a lot of weight - like 40 pounds.  I hated how I looked, basically dressed to try and hide the weight (which was impossible), and was again totally uninterested in sex because I felt terrible about myself.  It had nothing to do with my husband, but he bore the consequences.  He never said he was no longer attracted, although I'm sure he had to have been, but he definitely still wanted to have sex.  I just had no interest.  I finally took control of the situation, exercised some self-discipline and started to lose the weight.  Within a few weeks, I felt better about myself and became more interested in sex again.  The more weight I lost, the better I felt about myself and the better our sex life became.

It sounds like your wife might have had the blues, and maybe more, after giving birth - so in addition to the baby weight, was adding on more.  It also sounds like things are now heading in a better direction for her, and I suspect you will reap the benefits of that soon, too.  Give it some time, and I hope it all works out.[/quote]

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