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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here...

[quote=Anonymous]OP, I get it.  I have two kids 2 and 4 and also gained a lot of weight during pregnancy.  I'm now in good shape but it took me deciding enough was enough.  My husband and I DID have regular (1-2x a week sex starting a few months postpartum with each kid).[/quote]

Yeah, see, we're not.  We tried, starting like 10 weeks PP?  Right after she got an IUD and the OB signed off on it.  It was immediately obvious it was extremely physically uncomfortable.

[quote=Anonymous]Have you openly told her how you feel, leaving the weight out of it?  Telling her that it's affecting your relationship, you feel rejected and disconnected, etc?[/quote]

Right, so, maybe I wasn't clear in my first post: I don't feel rejected and disconnected.  My wife feels rejected and disconnected.  I'm OK.  My wife wants me to be a horndog and ravish her even though by all outward appearances she doesn't want to or enjoy having sex.

I have left the weight out of it and it would take a lot to convince me that bringing it up would do more good than harm.  [/quote]

So she is saying that sex is physically painful for her, 8 months after having a baby?  Has she spoken to a doctor about that?  FWIW the less sex you have the more painful it is, but I realize that doesn't help you.

This post is a little confusing though.  So you don't feel disconnected from her (emotionally, physically, whatever?)  Do you or do you not want to have sex with her to improve the relationship?  Or you just want sex for its own sake?[/quote]

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