Reply to Lack of Sex starting to cause issues/fights

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Lack of Sex starting to cause issues/fights"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hey, fuck you. With an attitude like yours, you aren't attractive to men or women. I suggest counseling. You may have bigger problems than her. [/quote]

[b]I think he sounds totally normal and thoughtful. [/b] What's he supposed to think?[/quote]

I agree. He's putting his honest thoughts out there on this forum. He doesn't expect his wife to be in super model shape, but 50 pounds is a lot of weight. It sounds like he is trying to support her efforts. He's looking for advice on how to make things better.

OP, I don't have the answer, but I do know this is very complicated. She's ashamed of her body and assumes/knows you aren't as attractive. But here's the thing, even if it didn't bother you and you were equally attracted to her, she would still have her hang-ups about it. You cannot fix her body self image for her. That is all on her. Continue to support her with cooking healthy meals. Working out is great, but diet is so much more important.

You're in a vicious circle where she feels bad about her body, doesn't want sex/isn't comfortable with it, and in turn feels rejected sexually. Talk to her, tell her how you feel (without mentioning the weight, that won't do any good and she already knows). Tell her how you feel (for example if you feel rejected and lonely, tell her that).

And try connecting with her as soon as the kids are in bed. Don't wait until bed time, you're both too tired by then. Have a glass of wine after the kids go to bed, sit on the couch and give her your full attention, connect through conversation, try to get emotionally intimate. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics