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[quote=Anonymous]Sounds like when he was little you let a lot slide and just figured he would grow into grownup traits like patience, perseverance, flexibility and social skills. That's not how it works. If you want your kid to possess a specific trait then you need to ask yourself what you are doing to teach that a skill. You want him to have a solid work ethic, well then what are you doing to teach that? Do you talk to him about times when you are frustrated or overwhelmed and model how to approach the task? Do you sit with him and help him come up with a plan to approach a difficult scenario? Do you remind him of times he pushed through difficulty and found success? Most importantly, do you let him sit with frustration instead of rescuing him? For all of these there are things you can be doing to help coach him, but it sounds like you are just passively waiting for him to figure it out and then praising him only when he gets it right. No wonder he is afraid to try![/quote]
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