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[quote=Anonymous]Please don't get me wrong and please please try to be kind, if you must respond. I have no one to discuss it with IRL.
I love my son to pieces. He is almost 6. He has always been a pretty easy kid, sweet, normal, maybe on the shy side.
However, it seems like he is becoming a person I am not truly fond of. Let me try to explain. It is not about his behavior. It is already more about his personality, even though I know it is still so much of a work in progress.
He has become a little teenager if I may.
He does not like things that require even the least of effort. Yesterday was probably the first day in school when he completed his writing assignment, I was so surprised and praised him so much. Usually he tries to quit whenever there is a slightest difficulty. He fights every smallest homework assignment. The slightest critique- as much as telling him "you probably should listen to the coach more"- makes him want to quit an activity.
He does not say hi to people- does not say bye- says he feels shy to do so. I never pushed him but it is becoming to look rude now that he is not 3 anymore.
He hates to receive kisses.
In fact his favorite word is now "hate", he hates too many things :) this I don't forbid him to say as long as it is not about people. 
He tried to throw his trash on the ground.
He tried to make me do stuff for him. He would actually ask very nicely- like- mommy can you do me a favor and carry my backpack today, I am tired- but this happens almost every day and with things like putting on his shoes, buckling up, and other run of the mill things. I don't discourage him when he wants to do stuff on his own, but it just doesn't happen often.
He seems to not like to go out and explore new things anymore. He is tired of walking as he says. He likes his scooter but he cannot take it everywhere.
He seems to be obsessed with electronics. If I let him, he would play minecraft and watch tutorials all day.
He likes Legos, he likes his karate class but that's about all he wants to do. And if offered a choice, he would much rather stay home and play video games!
He seems to only want to hang out with one or two friends. He outright refused to see two of his long time friends and play with them. The rest he doesn't care about much, and play dates just don't go too well. He either argues with them or ignores them.
He tries being rude to me, tries hitting me, argues with me all the time.
When I took him cross country skiing, he was whining, complaining and such. Even though he really wanted to do it, after a couple times all he wanted to do was sit in the cafeteria with a pizza slice and chips.
Speaking of pizza- his eating habits are changing for the worse, too. He was always a good eater, ate a variety of foods and liked his fruit and veggies. Now it is becoming a losing battle to give him his fruit and veggies, also he does not like homemade food anymore (not just mine), he tends to eat a few bites and wait until, say, a lunch at school which he buys or a meal out or walks around asking for snacks (I do allow healthy snacks when we are out and about with friends because his whining may ruin the whole thing).
Yes I do try to cap those behaviors and I do my best parenting him. But I am not a superhero myself! I get lazy or tired of his whining. Why does it have to be a struggle every darn time???? 
My H is not much help because he mostly spends his free time on the couch in front of the screen; he does not share my views on restricting screen time, sweets, and doing outdoor activities. I am not a sporty person but I think any child needs to get outside for an hour a day,weather permitting, eat their veggies, and have limited screen time. A lot of my energy goes into making sure H does not at least undermine my rules (I am not even hoping for help). 
H is getting a bit better with time but still - no help or encouragement, just more struggle.

I am really worried that my only child will become a lazy and entitled person with self esteem issues, which is what I think describes his dad (of course I try not to show it). 
Yes my husband has positive qualities, he loves his job and is open to improvement, he likes trying new things and traveling, he is pretty open minded. But I am not sure my son will inherit these qualities...
Ok thanks for bearing with me and reading this long rant, I appreciate any feedback.[/quote]

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