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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The kids need counseling. If there is no formal custody agreement, the mom can and should take them.

in my experience, the court tries to minimize switching at night during a school week to minimize disruption for the kid.

But if mom had the kids in counseling, the therapist could make a recommendation on what's best for the kids too. [/quote]

No counselors will see them unless BOTH parents sign the consent form.  She has tried several different ones that were recommended by the lawyer.  I agree that counselling would be essential.  But H doesn't want them in counselling b/c they might say something less than flattering about him.  To be totally fair, I do think H will present himself (he has a lawyer too) very well.  H is highly educated and comes across as very rational and calm.  H has recently taken up volunteering with a teen tech group, and started being the asst coach with the sports teams that the kids are on.  Suddenly, H has lots of time for the kids when previously, they were 100% W's responsibility with H having veto/approval power over all decisions (those involving the kids and anything in the house or any $ spent -- to the penny).  But, as I said, H will present very well at the future hearing.... although he won't be able to change the past -- but maybe a judge won't care much about the past?  I don't know.  That's why I'm asking you all! :)[/quote]

Well, odds are they won't get equal custody but it might be something like 60-40 or 70-30. And expect DH at every activity now.
This is typical divorcing dad behavior really. It could be that H is now interested in being a dad or it could be that his lawyer had advised him to act this way to get enough custody so as to not have to pay more. Time will tell. Divorces are nasty. That's how the game is played. 
This kind of thing is typical.
Does DW have documentation as to who took the kids to their doctors visits and who went to back to school nights all these years? 
Tell W just to try to roll with it, be happy H is less of an asshole now (hope it sticks!) and not listen to the head games.

As for the counseling the court could order it if the kids are having issues. I had a friend who agreed to H to send her kids to counseling - but she didn't know that the counselor was paid by the H and they totally screwed her and she lost her kids (she was a fine mother). So I can see why the other attorney would say no way. It can just be part of the power struggle.[/quote]

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