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[quote=Anonymous]For me, as an adoptive parent, I feel a touch of greater responsibility for a few reasons. One is that I would have to disappoint and devastate even more people than I would if there were no birth families relying on us. We stay in touch with the birthmothers and would have to tell these women who made great sacrifices for the kids and who relied on us to give them happy, stable lives.

Another is that my kids are older and I have seen how painful it is to carry the stigma and pain of being adopted. My older son  really struggles with this. He feels so much pain and rejection as a result of his adoption. He certainly feels like he belongs with us and is much better off than his bio siblings, but it is painful to know that he was "given up" at birth. He has had a lot of counseling to deal with this.

My younger daughter is already feeling like she is not normal because the other kids think it is "weird" to be adopted.

So I feel that my kids already have struggles to overcome. They also both have ieps and they have educational struggles to deal with. I feel like things are hard enough for them.

Basically, I would feel like crap if I made their lives any less stable and secure and happy than they are. I feel like they deserve better than that. But then again, so does my bio kid so it is not really that relevant.
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