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You have to decide to continue doing this or not. Make an active decision then stand by it. It's the passivity of it that I hear most in your post.

It is perfectly okay to fund your father's misadventures, whether you encourage him to make more solid choices or not. Whatever makes it easier for you to sleep at night. Counseling could help you actively work through your thinking on this. A good therapist will allow for whatever you decide with no judgement about fairness. For me, it's not at all about logic. It's about how you feel when these transactions go down. If you feel better about yourself (that this in some way is consistent with your values, despite the history of his absences) that makes it worth it in my opinion. Do what's best for your heart.

If you decide to set down limits, do so without apology. If you decide to continue to simply be responsive when he asks for assistance, do so without apology.

Balance it out. What works for you? You're only answerable to yourself.

Wishing you peace.
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