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[quote=Anonymous]If you're driving, you're driving. If he wants to drive, he can drive.

If you're buying the groceries, you pick what goes in the cart (within reason, and strawberries are pretty reasonable). If he wants to control the groceries, he can do the shopping.

If he wants to do the shopping, handle the car, negotiate prices, he has to actually do those things. If they go undone, and you step up to do them, then you're doing them and he doesn't get to bitch.

re: housekeeping, you have a toddler. Lower your standards and/or hire help.  If DH wants his shit scanned, make a weekly folder. He has 'til the end of the week to do whatever he wants to it, then it gets trashed. That way, it's all in one place and it has an expiration date.

Have this conversation once. After that, the only thing you need to say is "We've been over this. Please stop." Boundaries are your friend, so get some!

PS - his moods are his problem. Don't argue. Speak plainly (nothin' but the facts) and move on. The less you say, the better. Getting caught up in argument gives him the opportunity to "catch feelings" and use that as a derail.

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