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[quote=Anonymous]I've shared with one friend at work, my family and sis in law, and some friends.  I share about having miscarriages and now doing ivf. I joke about how ivf made my ovaries feel like sacks of gravel-humor helps me get thru the insanity and I find puts my friends at ease more with a tough subject.  I try not to treat it like a deep dark secret, but also not have it define me as 'the ivf girl.'  I felt alone and isolated when I was trying to hide all this, and kept having to tell white lies about it.  It was a big relief for me to 'come out.' People are anything from embarrassed, curious, concerned, happy, supportive; but generally clueless and always well meaning.  I think it's pretty similar to any other major life challenge.  Plus I don't want IF or miscarriage to come as a shock to another woman like it felt to me. so I hope my openness helps someone else feel less alone. Also I think there's some bullshit shame surrounding IF and miscarriage that I refuse to accept or promote.  But I'm a very open person and I totally get that many people are more private. My dad was like: I want you to use whatever modern science has to offer you to make this easier.  My mom was: are you sure you want to have kids they are a lot of work (this made me lol.)  my sis is awesome, a rock, cheering for my embryos (she calls them chipmunks.). I know it will be tough if I have to relay bad news, but after my first m/c - I found it was equally tough to hide how miserable I was, and it was really eating me up inside.  I should mention dh is comfortable with me sharing, I cleared that with him first. [/quote]

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