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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The big 4-0 is coming up.  It seems like lots of people use it as an occasion for a girl's trip or guy's trip or nice party.  My spouse has planned nada.  I mentioned going away on a trip with him, and he kind of acknowledged it, but then blew it off.  I mentioned it again and he again was pretty disinterested and non-committal, so now I just feel like a huge loser for asking.  There are no more hotels available for our destination now and tickets are too expensive anyway.  I'd really like to do something special.  After having a kid, I've lost a little bit of me, and I miss my friends and would love to do a girl's trip somewhere with them.  Should I just scrap trying to pathetically coax DH into "making me feel special" (because asking someone to make you feel special is a perfect way to feel not-special) and do my own thing?  Otherwise, looks like NOTHING is going to happen, and it will have come and gone.  (And no, I highly doubt he is planning a surprise party for me).  [/quote]

Yes - stop coaxing DH to do that and go and have a fun time doing whatever with your friends.
The vast majority of straight men and men who aren't acting in movies don't have a romantic/plan a getaway or even plan an exciting dinner bone in their body. Did you not notice this in 40 years? You clearly are one of those gals who had a surprise 16th birthday parties done thrown her (no offense, but, um, barf?) - who do you think planned this? Mom or dad? [/quote]

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