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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get that I'm more uptight than my ILs. I keep some structure for the kids, but am ok to deviate once in a while, while on the other hand the ILs have no rules or schedule and always fly by the seat of their pants. Needless to say that it creates tension. I generally let a lot more things go when they're around to try to find some middle ground.

We were out to dinner and MIL pulls a pencil out of her bag and shows the 6 year old he can draw on the table. ON the table, not paper (even though there were paper coloring pages available). Out of habit, I responded like I would towards my kids and snatched the pencil out of her hand and said "the rule in our family is that we don't color on tables". As soon as I said it I realized that it was as condescending as could be, but REALLY what was she thinking??

This is one snapshot, but it happens all the time where she's an embarrassment in public and a bad example for the kids. I let the little things go, but certain things are truly unacceptable. I really don't want to be "that" DIL, but I also have to parent my kids and draw certain lines in the sand.

So how DO I respond when I feel like she's crossed a line, but I don't want to be a complete bitch about it?[/quote]

You grabbed something out of another adult's hands and you think SHE was the embarrassment? And you have the nerve to consider yourself the adult at the table? SMH.[/quote]

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