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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Treat your mother's demands as invitations. "Thanks so much for inviting us and offering to host Christmas again this year. DH & I are still sorting out leave, travel, etc, so we'll get back to you in a month." then change the topic.

If she tries to order you around "What do you mean? Of course you're coming home for Christmas! There's nothing to discuss." reply with something lighthearted - a chuckle and a "yes, mom, I'd love to see you at Christmas too. We'll let you know" and then change the subject again.

She wants to control you and she relies on it being an emotionally taxing experience for you to do your own thing. So don't get emotional about it, don't get into a tiff, just like it light and happy whichever way you go. [/quote]

This is great advice.  Also, limit her information.  It sucks, but you just can't tell her when you go see your in-laws etc.  Obviously sometimes she'll have to know, but if you can keep it to yourself, do that.

And feel free to remind her you are married!  "Well Mom, DH has a family too, so we are trying to keep things balanced".  Ignore any protests after that.  "Mom, we are doing our best, talk to you soon, bye".  Don't listen to the guilt trips and don't let the guilt trips WORK.  Bc then she'll just give them more often.[/quote]

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