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[quote=Anonymous]My 3rd grader is a super social little girl.  Since Kinder she has made a group of good friends and we have grown to know their families through play dates and after school activities.  When she has made a new friend and asks for a play date I always invite the parent with the child if they choose to come.  I know some parents feel uncomfortable dropping their kids with a family they don't know and I am one of them.  Most parents usually just drop off, but one of the moms actually came over and we talked and chatted while we drank coffee.  We are friends now.

This year, all DD's good friends are scattered in different classrooms.  She has made a new friend and she REALLY wanted a play date with her.  I met the mom and exchanged contact information.  I asked her 3 times, on 3 different weeks if her DD could come for a playdate.  I made the times flexible.  But she had an excuse each time.  Then, she invited my daughter for a play date.  I had something to do but my daughter was so excited that I went ahead and said yes.  I asked if I could come since I really don't know this family at all (DD's other friends we have had always friends in common.)  She said of course, we drank tea talked about school and then DD and I went home.  They invited DD another weekend and I dropped her off, the family seemed lovely to me.  Since then, I must have invited their daughter about 4 times and every time there is an excuse, I then change the time but then another excuse (birthday, family coming, another birthday). The very last time I asked we were talking face to face and I asked about a morning play date and she said her DD had a birthday, then I asked about the afternoon and she said another birthday and looked flustered.  From her reaction (first time I see it face to face as the other times it was via text messages) I gather she does not want to drop off her daughter.  But then she asked if my daughter could come over the next weekend.  I honestly don't want a one sided relationship where I offer to trust and I don't get it back.  My daughter has plenty of play dates with families that we trust and trust us back.  My husband doesn't want us dropping her off at her new place any more.  What do you think? Thank you![/quote]

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