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[quote=Anonymous][quote]As someone struggling with maintaining my relationship with my sister who cut off our father (same idea as OP: divorce, sister took my moms side and can't move on 25 years later), while having a relationship with my father including as a wonderful grandparent to my boys, please consider the mass "spread", if you will, of such a decision on every family event including weddings and funerals on the entire family that will result. 
I'm not saying having a great relationship, I just wish my sister did a once a year school picture send or phone call at Christmas just to keep some relationship so we don't have a 3-4 time annual "who's going" dramatics around every funeral, wedding, baby shower, retirement party, graduation and family reunion. 
My kids have a distant relationship with her in part because her kids and my kids are too young to have a "why is your grandpa not my grandpa -oh wait, he is, my mom told me he was evil" chat. 
There was no abuse, neglect, alcohol, drugs, nothing, no money withheld, no cheating, just a divorce with typical hard feelings. 
So just another point of view from someone witnessing the fallout on people that really don't deserve it. 
Good luck in whatever decision you make![/quote]

You're conflating two issues.  Just because you cut off someone doesn't mean you can't attend the same events.  I cut off my dad because of abuse yet we've been to a couple of the same weddings.  If I come into contact with him, I will be civil but I will not engage with him.[/quote]

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