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[quote=Anonymous]Have you tried the direct approach? It sounds like you have two issues you would like to address: 1) You find him unattractive and embarrassing when he doesn't care about his appearance. 2) You are afraid this will affect him at work. You can have this conversation ONCE, kindly (not being nice, or jokey, or trying to "suggest" things -- being completely direct). But you must include your personal distaste. He is, presumably, the expert on his own job, and can make his own decisions about how his "look" is or is not affecting his performance there. Your best shot at getting him to care more is to put it to him that you need him to do this for you. Then, you have to drop it. After that conversation, your only option left is to decide what you are going to do. Leave him? Stop going places with him? Stop having sex with him? Learn to ignore it? Whatever -- the only person you can control is you.[/quote]
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