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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like something more is going on here and I'm not sure how to proceed. They were supposed to fly to Florida for a month on Saturday, like they do every winter. Dh has been really busy at work and forgot they were leaving. They called once on Saturday and he called them back on Monday. Apparently MIL had a stomach bug so they couldn't fly and now they're just not going. FIL is 81 and going deaf. My only guess is that he called to try to change their flight but couldn't hear so couldn't figure out a solution. Is this just what starts happening to elderly people or is there something I should be doing? Obvs I told them to call ME next time something like this comes up but is that enough? Obvs they are not local or this would all be much easier. [/quote]

With my parents I found that once they were in their 80s, everything gradually became more difficult and exhausting for them, whether it was travelling or recovering from an illness (or in your case, maybe even making a flight change proved to be more frustrating than they could manage or deep down they were happy to have an excuse not to go). I would take this as a sign that they probably need more assistance than they may be willing to let on, and your DH needs to be more active about keeping up with them, speaking to them on the phone more frequently to check in and see if they are still functioning well on their own, or if they might need someone coming to the house on a regular basis to help with cleaning or meals.[/quote]
I think this is it. They are in denial about the fact that they need to slow down. I think dh and I need to make a plan to make sure we are doing as pp suggests. (Means I need to step up since dh is a good son but prob can't do it all). Also! I do like them and they me. And I am not pushing them to travel. They claim to want to! The latest update is that they are planning to drive which I flat out told them is not a good idea. Talked to SIL and we will try to get them new flights.  -OP[/quote]

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