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[quote=Anonymous]My grandmother (my father's mother) died recently. My mother sent an email to friends (including my in-laws) letting them know and information about when/where the funeral would be as well as the Shiva at my parents house afterwards. The next day my mother-in-law sent my husband and I an email about plans we had to get together (the day before the funeral) and mentioned a whole bunch of other things, including the recent blizzard before she finally said at the very end of the email "I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother." My husband told her we had to reschedule the plans because of funeral related things etc. She responded that she understood and that was it. They live about an hour away from my parents and so we all have holidays together etc. They didn't know my grandmother well (she lived out of town) but they certainly know my parents well and my parents consider them family. My parents have yet to hear a word from them and it's been over a week. They didn't come to the funeral, they didn't come to the Shiva, they haven't even sent an email or a card to say "we're sorry for your loss." I have people we barely know sending their condolences and calling my parents and my in-laws haven't said a word. It's bizarre and really hurtful to me and my parents. There isn't really any love lost between my mother-in-law and I for many reasons but I've been really trying to be extra nice and always include them in family events and things have been better between us the last couple of years. I'm so confused as to why they would barely even acknowledge my grandmother's death to me and not acknowledge it at all to my parents. So to get to the point, I was going to say something to my husband who is pretty oblivious to stuff like this but I know how that will end up. He'll tell his mother we were hurt and she'll come back with some response like "goodness, I had no idea they would get so upset about something like this. I certainly didn't mean to upset them." and she'll make it seem like we are the crazy ones for expecting too much and he will just accept it. But I AM hurt and I really have no interest in seeing her at all. [/quote]

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