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[quote=Anonymous]This is partially a vent but I'm also trying to get some outside perspective and insight. FIL and MIlL seem constitutionally opposed to staying in a hotel when they visit. We live in very tight quarters in the city, a 2 BR plus den, and recently welcomed our second child. Before the second child, I would say a reasonable person would not expect to bunk here. But with new baby, it is beyond comprehension how anyone would expect or want to stay with us. Inlaws are well off and affording a hotel is not an issue. Any way, with their first visit since the new baby's arrival, we told them we could not host them, and offered to treat them to a hotel. They refused and to my complete shock, asked friends (fellow 60 somethings) who live about 30 miles from us, to stay with them. It sounds like something someone right out of college would do, not well to do semi retired professionals who spare no expense with buying themselves the latest in fashion, technology and cars. To top it off, they asked to borrow our car for the visit so they didn't have to rent one. 
I truly don't get it!
My fear is the next visit, they will try to bunk in with us once we are"settled in" with new baby. DH semi defends their actions, saying they find it cozier and easier to spend time with us when staying here. I see his point to some degree, but it seems a little ridiculous when you're kicking a toddler out of her room or sleeping on our couch. It can't be relaxing for them. And they're not the "down on your knees playing with kids" kind of grandparents, and are not here to "help" in any meaningful way. They generally hang on the couch surfing their iPads. Not hurting anything, but not adding anything, either.

Anyway - just curious to hear what you all think and if this is weird as it seems to me or if you can help me understand their mentality. They do have other children and relatives the visit, and do the same thing when visiting them. We are the only ones with such s blatant lack of space for them, though. [/quote]

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