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[quote=Anonymous]Only child, and my extended family is not close. On mom's side, they mostly call on birthdays. On dad's side, the only communication happens when someone dies. No, I don't really miss having siblings. Maybe if I had them, then lost them, I'd miss them. But having no such experience, I have no yearning for it. I've seen friends squabble with siblings about inheritance. I won't have that headache. Having to take care of my parents in their old age doesn't scare me; we have a good relationship, and I don't see taking care of family as a burden. Part of it is because I was not burdened with taking care of youngsters in my youth. (My mother was the oldest of five and resented every bit of it.)

DH and his sis are on good terms, but there is not much at all to their relationship. They are very different people, lead different lives, live on opposite coasts and see each other on weddings and funerals.

I have one child, but not by choice. If I could, I'd have two. However, I am not heartbroken about DC not having a sibling. (I'm heartbroken about not getting pregnant, but giving my child a sibling was not my primary goal.) The thing is, either way there are positives and negatives. You need to figure out which positives will outweigh negatives for you and your family. I don't know any onlies who outright hated being onlies. You'll probably get some feedback like that, but I sincerely believe that their problems did not stem from being only children. There is much more to a family dynamic than the number of kids. If you choose to have one and be comfortable with your choice, you can make it work very well. If you choose to have more, you can make that work too. The kid(s) will be fine either way.[/quote]

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