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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother is like this with her siblings (and me, unfortunately). Always has to "one up" everyone around her, and will downplay/not acknowledge others accomplishments. I think her siblings just acknowledge that it's her issue, and share information in a normal fashion, but know she will have to make a point of listing her own accomplishments (or experiences, credentials, possessions, whatever). [/quote]
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OP here.  THIS exactly!  Sibling (I'll call them the "bad sibling") exaggerates their accomplishments.  It's like a mental disorder.  If I pay attention to it, it bothers me, so I try not to.  Anything the successful sibling of ours does is *completely* dismissed (by the bad sibling).  IRL, our extended family know (the other sibling) is amazing - both professionally and personally.

But it really bothers me, after all the (I'll call them "the good sibling") does - there is no reason for the bad sibling to try to make a game of it - but they do! The bad sibling (BS for short, haha) really takes the good siblings' accomplishments personally.  BS can't even stand to be in the same room as GS - you can actually see it and feel it, when they are both present (the GS doesn't seem to care, but it hurts me to see it, somehow).   It is like the bad sibling wants to be the good sibling - tries to switch places, or something - like a bad soap opera!  It's crazy, the extremes the bad sibling goes to, to try to look "perfect".

Meanwhile, I'm thinking that  the "good sibling" should step it up - and self promote much (much) more, because there is damn good reason to!

Do people see through this insane behavior of the bad sibling (who goes to extremes for appearance sake)? It's ALL about them!

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