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[quote=Anonymous]When we started at my youngest kids private 6 years ago I remember feeling totally overwhelmed. I walked into a first parent meeting and I swear everyone seemed like they were 6 feet tall, blond, skinny in yoga pants, pretty and of course educated. I am short, average weight, brunette, attractive but not gorgeous and the education part is about the only thing we had in common. I don't mean every one of them was a Rhodes scholar but they all seemed to give off the vibe that they were "all that".

Eventually I overcame my insecurities and through my son met a number of nice women, a few more down to earth ones who I naturally gravitated towards and became quite friendly with. Never totally felt like I fit it with most of the parents there as they are a certain way,  but my son thrived so that was good enough for me. This is a top private and a bunch of very important families attend, i am not really that impressed by that but most are and there are plenty of brown  nosers running amok .

This entire time I kind of did my own thing, attended parent events when I had to, rarely got invited to social events but went to the few that we were invited to. Everyone was nice enough but I never felt part of that inner circle, which was OK I guess.

Fast forward to high school where my son has excelled as an athlete and student. He is by most definitions, a very popular boy and "the golden child" of his grade as his teacher refers to him, she says the other parents use him as the example to their own kids. I was not a popular kid but my husband was according to him and his family which might explain our differneces-

We are happy to see him doing so well. I have seen a shift ever so subtly but unmistakably a trend of major warming up by those very same parents who were just "nice enough" now wanting to be friends with us, inviting us for social events, all because of my son and his relationship with their kids. It is so obvious as he is kind of the ring leader of many of their kids and they naturally want to know more about him/us. Its almost like we have been invisible for 6 years and now they see us.

The thing is I want no part of it. I am content with how things are. My son will graduate in 2 years and we will all go our separate ways, once he is out of the picture they will not give us a second thought. My H however feels like we should make more of an effort and make the best of it while we are there. We are at odds. I realize this is a very condensed version of the story...but wondering what you think?

We are invited as an example to a dinner by one of these parents in 2 weeks, I don't want to go, he does. Last time we were with that group I felt so out of my league and like a total outcast, but I have also gotten use to this and am really fine with it. Do I go again to appease my husband or stand my ground or let him go on his own?[/quote]

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