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[quote=Anonymous]I think it depends a lot on the cost of the item.

If it's something really expensive, it's okay (and good) to try to set the precedent of consulting with you about your preferences.  I know my MIL is the type who would buy whatever large item looked nice and was available for a good price at Costco, but that generally wouldn't work for us.  For example, I am very short and have back problems, so we "test drove" several strollers before picking the right one for us.  Even on sale, I would hate if my MIL had spent money on a stroller that we ended up donating or returning.  This is something your DH can sort of hint at early...maybe by saying things about how your space is configured in such a way that you have to do a lot of research before you buy things or even just flat out saying you guys are being picky/particular etc.  I would not directly approach your MIL about this sort of thing unless you have a fantastic relationship with her.

For smaller items, I would let it go.  You may get a lot of loud, battery-operated toys.  I guarantee your kids will like them, probably better than the wooden educational ones you buy.  Just keep a few, and pull the batteries out if they drive you bonkers.  Keep any clothes you receive from your MIL, and make sure your baby wears them around her.

And always smile and say thank you.  My sister's kids still received the craziest things from her DH's mom (usually totally inappropriate for their age and if clothes several sizes too small)...but she takes a picture and says thank you before donating.  Some people are good gift givers, others aren't.  My parents are lazy givers, which means they usually just tell me a budget and to pick something and have it reimbursed.  It takes the surprise away, but at least for my kids I know I can get them what they want.[/quote]

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