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[quote=Anonymous]We are expecting our first in a few month-- there are already grandkids on both sides. My MIL is retired and spends 99% of her time on Facebook.  She's a total over sharer (including posting about SIL's-- her daughter- miscarriage (SIL had her remove it).  She tagged herself in a bunch of our honeymoon pics (clearly she wasn't there- and SIL also stepped in to tell her that isn't what you do), and she comments awkwardly on everything and really stresses me out about what she is going to say (for example, I'm choosing not to put the pregnancy on Facebook). I'm leaning toward a total social media blackout for all things baby, partially because I know that if the door is open even a little, she will share more than I want about our child, and I don't want this to be a constant source of frustration for me or tension for our relationship.

Anyone have experience setting these types of boundaries? How did they go? It is going to be a challenge- she questions everything (for example-- me not wanting to share pregnancy news on Facebook wasn't sufficient, we had to explain that it's because I am friends with some of my clients on Facebook and I won't be telling them for several more months).  When the church for our wedding had a rule about covering shoulders she made a huge deal about it, as well, and during the holidays she repeatedly questioned if my "do not eat" list from my OB was really that necessary, since those weren't the rules when she was pregnant 30+ years ago. She shares pics of her other grandkids on a weekly or daily basis-- including sharing any photos their parents post as if she is there with them (on vacation, etc). She also friends everyone she meets-- including random strangers she strikes up a conversation with- so it's not like the sharing is limited to family.

DH will be on my side no matter what, but doesn't really understand why I care so much about what gets shared.  SIL is generally an ally when it comes to the crazy MIL Facebook usage, but will also not understand this. (FWIW, my family doesn't share on Facebook so they aren't the problem. There are like 0 posts or pics of my nephews on social media). I am very interested in letting our child leave his own digital footprints and not overly exposing him from a young age.  I feel like he and I got to define our own online personas, and baby should have the ability to do the same. [/quote]

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