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[quote=Anonymous]I went to my first RE appt last week and was shocked to learn I have DOR.  I'm 33 years old, 2 miscarriages since mid-2014 (dx hypothyroid, now very closely monitored) but unable to get pregnant for the past year.  Only 3 follicles seen on my ultrasound, high FSH and likely very low AMH (results not back yet).  I was pretty gutted.  DH is 42 and his semen analysis is perfect.  My doc wants me to try IVF with my own eggs, but the odds are so low given how few eggs will likely be removed, and I'm not sure I can handle the physical and emotional drain after what we've already gone through.  IUI wasn't presented as a realistic option for me but maybe I should have asked more about that.

DH and I are OK with donor eggs - thinking about that route is actually a relief.  I'd be excited to have a full batch of frozen eggs that we could use to build our family over the next 6 years or whatever, assuming I am able to carry successfully.  We'd love to have 3 kids, and that dream felt further and further from our reality with each miscarriage and every month of BFN. But, at my age, it seems possible to do with DE.

But is it strange to not even try IVF with my own eggs?  I feel like that raises eyebrows.  I don't know if I'm being too impatient, wanting to skip straight to the procedure with the highest odds even though that means giving up on my own eggs, but I just can't bear the thought of even one round of IVF.  I don't know why.  And I know I'm not doing this for anyone other than me and my husband and our future family, but I can't shake that insecurity.

I know the internet can't tell me what the right choice, but I'm interested in hearing any perspectives on this.  I'm not even a week into a dx of infertility and just trying to find my way in this new world.[/quote]

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