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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Three years ago my brother decided to retire; ie not work anymore by using money from my father’s estate. When my father died two years ago, the estate went into probate with another family member, so no more money. Since then every time he needs money for an emergency, he asked me for a loan, which I gave him. There was never any repayment. In 2014 my DH became disabled and had to retire. He gets disability and a small pension that we are able to live on with only a few extras. One by one the expenses of life have piled up for my brother. Each time he asks me for more money. We do not have extra money to give. My brother is very angry with me for not giving/ loaning for this current emergency.  Every conversation has become about his lack of money. He is not disabled – he just does not want to work. His wife works, but she keep her money separate and uses it for her children from another marriage.
Now that he is mad at me, I realize that he has been asking me for money for years. Has our relationship become I am his enabler and bank?  [b]How to repair this relationship?[/b]

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Why would you want to?[/quote]

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