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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What happened? How did you realize it? How did it affect your current life?

I'm currently a women married to a man, with children
Thinking I might be gay after a recent relationship. Not sure how to proceed, not sure how to deal with this, [b]I'm questioning my whole life [/b]
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Maybe you were a lesbian all along and maybe you weren't.  Women's sexuality is much less rigid and fixed than men's sexuality. Women who are straight their whole lives fall in love with a woman or find a sudden attraction to women. Women who are lesbian their whole life fall in love with a man or find a sudden attraction to men.  It shifts sometimes.   I wouldn't take your new found attractions as signs that your "whole life" was wrong. Maybe you just changed.

I am 90% straight, but have had occasional relationships with women.  What you are describing happens with women. (Not so much with me. They seem to have sexual identities that remain much more fixed.)

You have the same decision to make as anyone who has had an affair.  Do you love your spouse? Can you stay with your spouse and be happy and make them happy? How do you do that? Would it be better to pull the plug on the marriage and get a divorce as quickly and cleanly as possible? How will it affect your kids?

Good luck.  [/quote]

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