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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I read them. I don't use an app, etc... I just pick up the phone and read.

[B] I don't believe in privacy for phones. You can read mine, I can read yours. [/B]

While reading the texts I found out Larla offered to send my 8th grader a topless picture.
I found out that 9th graders are smoking pot, giving BJs and drinking their parents vodka.
I found out which parents allow drinking in the basement every weekend.

You would and have allowed your children to read your texts and evaluate them for appropriateness? Interesting. I still find a lack of privacy for individual people's communications inappropriate, but at least this is far more respectful than the way I see most parents carrying out such a policy. I would only consider doing this to my children's texts if I was likewise willing to allow them to do so to mine in return, which I am not. That's a good check, thanks for sharing something I hadn't considered before.[/quote]

Why would you feel the need to let your kids read your texts? Do they pay for your phone and service? Are they your guardians, responsible for helping you make good decisions as you mature? [/quote]

Because of the environment in which I was raised, I have made a personal commitment to never use the argument that I pay for something and therefore have the exclusive right to set rules for its use without negotiation. Not even with my kids.

And I don't believe that reading my children's texts is necessary to help them make good choices. It was not neccessary in my experience with my older two.

I believe that giving them privacy to communicate with others, and to access information without me serving as gatekeeper, is essential to both help them make good choices and help them develop their own sense of identity.

I see few risks that I'm not ok with in letting them keep their texts private, and many risks that I'm definitely not ok with in reading them.

I personally believe that every person has a fairly high right to privacy, so if it would feel to me like an invasion for someone to be reading my texts (it definitely would), then it probably crosses the line of what I would consider invasive and inappropriate to do to anyone else.

By the way, just for the sake of accountability and clarity, I am also poster 12:00. Apologies for not noting that originally in my post that quoted yours to reply to you. It was an oversight that I try to avoid making. Usually when I post multiple times in a thread I try to always note which poster I am so it does not appear that I am sock puppeting my own positions and so others may more easily question points I have made while knowing who they are addressing.[/quote]

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