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[quote=Anonymous]Have you already picked your own destination? This would be easier on you if your beach happens to be in some totally different place--say, another state--from where they stay. Just tell them that your chosen destination offers some activities that are of special interest to the kids right now (whatever that might be--aquarium, museums in nearby town, whatever, as long as it's true!).

You can also try selling the idea of "We're so glad you love the life in Beach Town and we want to be sure we never outstay our welcome. It's your [i]home[/i] and we don't want you to think you have to entertain us. We're sure you're getting to know people and finding your own niche there!!" or whatever variation of that would work best on them. Because it is true, after all -- if they bought their home in Beach Town primarily because they expected everyone to visit on all holidays and vacations, they didn't think ahead to the fact they need to make their own life there as full-time residents of that area. I'd be sending them web sites and brochures for all the retiree stuff going on, the community events aimed at locals, churches if they're into church, volunteering if that's their thing, winter events (many beaches do have 'em), etc. It's a not so subtle hint that they shouldn't be sitting there waiting to host everyone. If they get a life there for themselves they might be less likely to expect you to vacation with them all the time.

I also like the above idea, if you are within a certain distance of them on your own vacation, of maybe going on your own for a day or two ("Let's have a kid-free, parents and adult daughter time" which I would have treasured with my own folks!) or your taking the kids for a day or two. Not a whole week of your vacation, though. [/quote]

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