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[quote=Anonymous]An hour visit a day seems reasonable to me Op given what was going on?  You said everything ended up well: do you think your level of stress/worries was higher than his ? Could this be linked to how the doctors' portrayed the situation ? Ie: you were seriously worried about losing the baby and he thought that as long as you were properly monitored the risk was close to zero?

I would say this:
- talk about it, don't let it fester, but also LISTEN, understand his perspective, if he didn't see you as in real danger but just super bored at the hospital coming to see you an hour every day may already have been a "sacrifice" for him. Maybe he was overwhelmed and saw you as resting all day...
- you just delivered, as others have said hormones are playing a number on you. Your feelings of loneliness and abandonment could be linked to that.
- your thought your DH was caring: he cares about his 2 kids too. As you will see with yours, leaving them with other people is not necessarily easy plus making them feel the "burden/ consequences" of his "new wife and new baby" could be a challenge for him too.. 
- it is a very common complain among some of my GF who married very caring men and, were used to get a lot of attention, to be very disappointed after the baby arrives. The reason ring that their DH cares about kids too and they lose the prime spot. Plus the demands of young children are so high that DH simply has nothing left for DW (reverse is true but they don't realize it..).[/quote]

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